Hello everyone and welcome to the blog "I'm The Mother"! This blog was born from my passion for writing and my new life as a first-time mom. Here I will share with you every moment of this new mother's life, tips, decoration, recipes, and a thousand and one things about babies, parents, and children. The name "I'm The Mother" came about because as many mothers know before the babies born and after that, seems that all people know much about our baby and so they give guesses all the time.
When our baby born it's normal that we don't know everything. Thus mom and dad are nervous and have some fears about the baby. Fear of let falls the baby, afraid that the baby isn't eating well, afraid that baby has cold, afraid of everything. It's normal, is a whole new world for us and now our world and life is our baby.
We have to adapt to the baby and the new life that we have going have. Gradually, we learn to be parents. And who will teach us will not be the books, doctors, or people! Who will teach us to be parents will be our son! Doctors and books will give us some help, but as everyone knows (or should know) all babies are different, and therefore, all the theories that exist do not apply to all babies.
Enough of guesses
Our emotional state after the baby born is a commotion, and as it does not already enough, start the "rain of guesses." The neighbor says, "The baby should be more bundled up, he must be full of cold!" Comes the cousin and says "Your milk shouldn't be good cuz your baby is very skinny," comes the aunt of 5th degree and say "the baby is crying, must be hungry", comes the lady from the supermarket "the baby must have cramps. " Then begin beliefs "You must do this or that tea to pass the bellyache," "you should put a bag of hot water under the back," "turns the stomach baby down!" There comes a time when you don't wanna command them into a place that we all know, so we have to say ENOUGH! I'M THE MOTHER!
As you can imagine that bothered me a bit, and then one day I said "I'm the Mother, so I know how to take care of my son! Thanks for the guesses, but you can save them for you." Okay, so far the guesses basically disappeared.
We have so much to worry about and we both enjoy our baby that these guesses sometimes disturb our happiness, and therefore, you should "just nip it in the bud."
Whether your mother, father, in-laws, friends, if they say something that bothers you, then say you don't want to hear guesses! You are on your right, and so, you don't have to feel bad about doing it, because this is supposed to be the best time of your life, so don't let that spoil it. And a message for the daddy : we moms, we become more sensitive after the childbirth so help and don't let friends and family opinions harm your happiness.